I’ve been contemplating if I should write this or not…. But I guess I have to go back to my roots that when I’m deeply baffled by the experience, I will type it out and let myself have the outlet and opportunity to express myself.
First of all, I really want to take the opportunity to thank you for letting me be part of your family, I truly value this even though we have a culture clash. I don’t think I can say thank you enough that the past year that I’ve experienced a family life… this is something that I’ve craved since young. If you’ve had the time to get to know me, you’d know my upbringing wasn’t like your son or daughters. Nevertheless, I really truly appreciate everything that you accepted me like your own. Even thou I’m not someone who overly uses of thank you by word of mouth…deep down I’m thankful.
Breakups are never easy, and it was just about me and his One-year Anniversary… we actually have known each other for two years more. The reason why we broke up is that you have a loving son, he is so loving to his family that he’s willing to give me up. I’ve already accepted this. The break-up process it’s already two weeks past and honestly, my heart is bitter. The bitterness of this is that you have a loving son that isn’t able to fend for himself. Giving a child an ultimatum, this ultimatum is a form of emotional and mental abuse. I understand that you love your son, but your son is so dependant on you that he doesn't have a voice to express what he wants... Even if it wasn't me.
If I'm bluntly honest, I don't think I can ever be appreciated by either of you. As our values are different and the fact that you can't accept other forms of appreciation shows how arrogant you are. You have your ways and old habits die hard, completely understand but even if I don't say
Your son loved me for a reason because I am real. Honestly, your world sees people through a coloured lens. Yes, you are successful, but sometimes I forget that do you even remember your roots. As explained from your son that it wasn't easy to be this successful. I'm sure that you've pondered into ditches and climbed yourself back up. I'm a real person I have I'm a person, I have feelings, I have a voice. All you had to do is speak to me if you disliked me use your voice to speak to me. This era we living in should be able to accept constructive criticism. However, this is how I feel about both of you... you never got a chance to get to know me. You believe that I'm rude, mannerless and involve my family members saying words "I'm not sure how you were raised." Implying that I was raised very poorly. just because your family values one way and you believe is correct doesn't make my family wrong. We are straight forward people we don't like to be fake and phoney, we don't beat around the bushes... This is life, You live in your building rarely understanding the society, please don't use your judgements on me... I cried because I let you value me that I'm not enough... From this, I understand that I am enough. I accepted that we have a cultural difference but doesn't mean that there isn't any room for acceptance. I've already accepted that your son can't live without you. Nor would I like that, I wouldn't want to be called a homewrecker...But considering all this aside this message again isn't to be a clap-back it just solely how I feel. I'm not considering getting back with your son as I guess that would be disrespectful for him to go against your wishes.. or his own.